Friday, June 3, 2011
It's getting crazy up in here... Eating / Feeding Issues :-(
It's getting crazy up in here. I briefly mentioned it in one of my other notes, but Kyle's had some major eating / feeding issues the past year or so.
His appetite has gone down and there was a 6 month stretch where he lost 5-6 pounds. Even with that weight loss he was still in the normal range for a boy his age & height. But doctors dont like it when a 7-8 year old loses 10% of his body weight.
We have no definitive reason for the loss of appetite. It could be a combination of some meds that he was on (that normally increase appetite but nothing is normal about Kyle :-)... or it could be the fact that he went thru a stretch where he breathed heavy & fast ALL DAY (almost like hyperventilating) and he could have been burning alot of calories doing this.
Whatever the reason, he lost weight and the wife took it upon herself to fatten him up. And she did, she got those 5-6 pounds back, but what she had to do and now still has to do is feed him like a little baby. Strapped into a seat (meant for a 4-5 year old). Forkful by forkful. Put a piece of chicken on the fork and either prompt him to pick up the fork, or literally feed him.
This is for almost EVERY meal. Unless it's popcorn or cheerios (which he eats like Cookie Monster as you can see from my profile pic) he needs to be fed.
And it drives the wife crazy and the two of them are at each others throats sometimes when I get home from work. Kyle grabbing my hand and "asking" to be unstrapped....but we check his school lunch and he barely ate that so he's gotta stay strapped and eat some more...
I kinda refuse to feed him like a baby. I think it's ridiculous. No kid will literally starve themselves right? And the wife will remind me that he did lose 6 pounds in just a few months.
If it was up to me, I'd feed him popcorn and cheerios every day and just give him a good multivitamin and to make up for the rest.
The feeding thing has really gotten crazy and I kinda feel that it's putting a rift in Kyle's relationship with his mom.
Currently my wife is just Kyle's chauffeur, maid, and cook. He gives her almost no attention or affection. Then I get home from work and Kyle is all over me, pulling at my neck, asking me to pick him up, planting a kiss on my forehead.
This is going to come out wrong and I know I'm in the wrong here...BUT... I think Kyle currently shows me more affection because I expect less out of him then the wife does and I ask less of him. I'll put his socks and sneakers on instead of prompting and making a 10 minute lesson out of it. I'll unstrap him after only a few forkfuls of dinner and then make him a bag of popcorn at 830 at night before bedtime. So he LOVES me and the wife he barely tolerates.
I honestly don't know the solution is but something has gotta change with the whole eating / feeding situation and with the whole Kyle not giving his mom attention because it's really getting my wife down.
And because I know a few of you are thinking it... :-) We tried the GFCF thing years back and didn't see much improvements. We may try it again in the future but we are fairly certain that this feeding issue is not a GFCF issue...
That's my story... Not necessarily looking for any solutions from any of you (but if you have them please send them)... just wanted to give you another window into our crazy world at the moment
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