I'm a 44 year old dad with a 10 year old son with severe autism (AND NOW ALSO WITH EPILEPSY, AN ADDED BONUS!!). My wife is an Autism Mommy Rock Star! But she doesn't like me RANTING about autism too much on Facebook to our friends & family. So I've created this anonymous Page with which to rant about autism and celebrate my son "Kyle" :-). For the full Autism Daddy experience "like" my Facebook Page at https://www.facebook.com/AutismDaddy
10 "Polite" Things People Say To Autism Parents That Can Be Annoying / Frustrating....
These are 10 things that the wife and I hear often from friends and family members who are just trying to be nice. They are just trying to be polite and show interest in your kid and have something nice to say. Let me say straight away that I don't blame them for saying any of these. These are just 10 things that when you hear ALL the time get to be a bit frustrating... the same way the movie stars get exhausted when they have to answer the same questions over and over when they are on a press junket... :)
Anyway without further ado... here's MY 10 "Polite" Things People Say To Me & The Wife That Can Be Annoying / Frustrating with some of the sarcastic remarks that go thru my head when I hear them :-)....
1) "Hows the baby doing?"
Who had a baby? Oh you mean my soon to be 9 year old? He's doing fine...
2) "Even typical kids do that..."
Thanks. Even typical kids are known to drink the chlorine water in the pool? That'll make me feel better when he has crazy diarrhea tonight. Yes, some typical toddlers may do that, but not 8 year old typical kids....but thanks for trying to make me feel better
3) "Did you see that autism report on the news about ____"
Yes I did. And if I didn't I probably know about it already. And if I don't know about it, it probably won't help me anyway...
(I covered this topic a bit in a few old blog posts that you can read HERE and HERE)
4) "Awww but he's so cute..."
Yes he is cute. Being cute goes a long way in life. Wait till he leaves a dollop of saliva in your pocketbook. Tell me if you think that is cute...
5) "Wow he's gotten so tall..."
I've covered this in another blog post that you can read HERE. When your kid has made almost no discernible progress people say "wow he's gotten so big..."
6) "What do the doctors have to say? Any suggestions?"
Uh, the doctors? Which doctors? I take that back. It doesn't matter which doctors, none of them have a f&$king clue..
7) "Is he talking yet? Any words at all? I saw ____ 's kid and he started talking so there's always hope.."
Nope, no speech yet. And thanks for reminding me how far behind my kid is. I can blame you for the funk I'm gonna be in for the rest of the day.
8) "Does he sleep well? Well at least he sleeps well..."
Yes, for the most part he does sleep well. And that totally makes up for the other 16 hours of the day when he's bouncing off the walls and we are playing goalie trying to keep him safe and away from the knife drawer in the kitchen..
9) "It's ok. He can put that in his mouth. It's clean and he can't choke on that."
That's very nice of you that you are ok with my son putting your wooden figurines in his mouth. I'm glad that they are not a choking hazard but it's not really appropriate for an 8 year old boy to be putting weird things in his mouth...but again thank you... :-)
10) "I don't know how you guys do it...."
Do what? Wake up in the morning, take care of our kid, get him dressed, fed, love him? That's hat a parent is supposed to do. We're no saints over here, trust me...
(I touched on this in a previous blog post that you can read HERE)
That's my Top 10. I would LOVE to hear some of yours!!
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